(16) Internet Dating

MAKING FRIENDS
Try to think of web dating as more a way of extending your circle of friends and not necessarily a way to find a love partner - you never know you might meet your perfect match through your new found friend.

YOU
When you describe yourself avoid a list of adjectives. Don't say you're funny, write something funny to illustrate the fact. "Improve your chances by attaching a smiling photo"

DESCRIPTION
Think about how you can describe your character strengths and weaknesses, how you spend your free time and what really matters to you in life. And be passionate about your likes and dislikes.

THE PERSONAL TOUCH
Honesty is very attractive, so say exactly what your favourite song or movie is not just "I like pop music", be specific. Say what dish you cook best, or travel destination you like to visit.
EssentialsBe clear about your "must haves", for example, if you want someone a similar age to you, write that, otherwise you'll hear from all ages.

PHOTO
You're seven times more likely to receive a response if you include one.
Adapt Often trial and error is a must. Assess the responses you are getting, and be prepared to adjust your personal profile if necessary.

SAFETY
Don't give out personal details such as your name, phone number, address or personal description.

PICK A NICKNAME
But beware of what you choose, a sexually provocative name may attract messages you may not be able to handle!

THE DATE
If you arrange to meet someone, choose a busy public place, and still don't give your personal details like your surname and address.

TAKE A FIREND
At least at the beginning of the date, and work out a signal for whether you want them to go or stay. Tell someone where you are going If you don't take a friend with you, tell them where you're going and who you're going to meet.

ESCAPE ROUTE
Have a plan to leave if you aren't enjoying yourself. For example, get a friend to phone you mid-date.

SLOW START
Don't get carried away if you like the person. You may feel like you've been friends for a while if you've been emailing a lot. Remember, it's you're first meeting and you are strangers.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
If someone makes you feel uneasy, there may be a reason. So don't think you're being silly, and don't arrange a second date.

HAVE FUN
Don't worry if you're not attracted to your date, they might turn out to be a great friend instead!

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